Breast cancer. No one wants to hear they have it. Find out how I took the news and how I broke it to my family/friends. Plus, learn about my coping weapon!
3 days after my dreadful biopsy back in November 2018, I received a call from the main nurse at the clinic.
She asked me if my husband and I wanted to come in to talk to the biopsy doctor about a consultation.
A consultation?? What did that mean??
Knowing how far away the clinic was from our house, I rejected her offer and said, “Is it so important that we have to come in?”
She responded, “Yes. Your results from the biopsy are back and the doctor would really like to speak with you about them.”
This only meant one thing.
I asked her if he could deliver the consult over the phone and she agreed to ask him.
Sure enough, at 4:00 pm that same day, the doctor called. My husband had literally walked through the door from work right when he called.
Both of us walked into our bedroom, shut the door, and put the phone on speaker mode.
“I have your biopsy results in my hand and I hate being the bearer of bad news, but one of the masses in the test came back positive. You have breast cancer.”
There it was. The answer we had been waiting for the entire week.
It looked to be Non-Aggressive, Stage 2 Breast Cancer, but the doctor didn’t know for sure.
I had been preparing myself all week for the news so when he told us, I was ready to figure out what the next steps were.
My husband, however, thought on the positive side all week. When he heard the news, he stood motionless with a blank stare. He was so shocked that he couldn’t find the words to talk. I had to carry on the conversation for the two of us.
We said our goodbyes to the doctor and proceeded to take in the news. It was in that moment when time froze. It froze for me and it froze for him as we looked at each other with worried eyes.
The knocks on our bedroom door from the kids drew us back out of our trance. As they asked what happened, I tried with all my might to hold back the tears.
Mommy has cancer. Mommy has cancer. Mommy has cancer….was all I could think about.
To find out how I broke the news to the rest of my family and about a certain tool that has been helping me through this, watch the video below!
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